I started this Blog several days ago when I was very upset, decided to save it for a few days instead of posting it, good decision. I am calmer now and can change some of the mean things that I wrote, it is not good to post when you are angry, now that I have a little clearer head I can rewrite and maybe get the same points across without so much hostility!
I am a chronic worrier, I worry about everything! Some of us have a tendency to worry more than others, I wish I was not that way, but I can not help myself, I was born this way, or maybe I just inherited the tendency! I guess that one of the reasons a person worries is because they are not in control , however worrying does nothing to ensure a positive outcome to the situation, and what one might consider a positive outcome, to another it may not be positive! So guess it is best to let the good Lord handle it for us! AND Stop worrying!
I love my family I guess to much, and want what is best for them, but what I see as being best, may not be what is best for them in the long run, so I have to learn to live with their decisions and work at being the best I can be, and not worry about the ones that I disagree with.
Have you ever had people that you wish had never entered your life, because the hurt they have caused is beyond belief. I have had a few of them and I have learned to forgive some for the hurt and working on forgiving the rest! It is a very hard thing to do!
I have two ex daughter in laws one I get along with and still love and care about, the other one I still care about and would like to love again but she makes it really hard to find a way to communicate with her, she does and says things that are hurtful and then I get mad and do the the same, since I have gotten older it is hard for me to hold things in like I once did!
I want my grandchildren to live in a clean and health home what is wrong with that? I want them to eat more than fast food, what is wrong with that? Their mom does not believe in God so the kids should not be taught about him either! That is wrong, they should be taught all beleifs and let them decide when they get older! I really do want the best for her, and it would be nice to have a working relationship, but I only see that happening if I agree with everything she say and does as she does not like input from me, everything I say or do, she has to make a literal meaning about it! With most people I do not have to put exact times and dates to things I say, they can read between the lines, she can not! I can not even say something in a joking manner, she will make a Mountain out of it! I wish this could be resolved, but I am not going to hold my breath! She is truly not open minded and is set in her ways, and does not try to look at new things! I will however continue to pray for her! I do remember some good times with her and wonder where that girl went!
One of my son's has a real problem he is in love with two women, the girl he loved before he got married and his ex wife. (and the ex wants him back, since he is living with the other) I hope it works out for all involved I know that someone has to get hurt, but who is the question! One believes in God and the other does not! He once did, but was talked out of his belief. Now which way should he go, that is up to him!
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I guess it is hard to be the parent of adults, actually harder than when they were kids and you had more say in their choices. I pray a lot and say only positive things about my kids mates. I learned this after making a mistake at the beginning. When you find the positive and let the rest go it really helps you to love them more. I love my two daughter-in-laws a ton and my son-in -law is a gem. None of them do things like I want them to but that is okay. I just love and pray. I don't know if this helps or not but it is the way I found encourages relationships. When you are a gramma you just love those kids and encourage them to mind their parents even when it just doesn't resonate in your spirit. In the long run it will encourage better relationships. Now I am not talking about kids who abuse their kids here just about differences in style and emphasis. I will keep you in prayer. Your situation cannot be easy. I think of you often my friend!
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